October 28, 2009

First timers!

There can be a lot of pressure to lose your virginity – that is, to have sexual intercourse for the first time. Having sex with someone just because you want to lose your virginity, or because you think all your friends are doing it, is something you may regret later.
You might feel lots of anxieties, especially the first time you have sexual intercourse.You may feel embarrassed about how you look without your clothes on, or worried about your privacy being disturbed. It’s natural to feel some worries but good communication will really help to prevent you feeling embarrassed or worried. You should be able to talk to your partner about how you feel about having sex for the first time, and about any concerns you may have. Your partner might be worried, too.Having sexual intercourse – when a boy’s hard penis goes inside a girl’s vagina, or even just touches the outside of her vagina – is what can lead to pregnancy. So, before having sexual intercourse you should think about whether you need to use contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancy, and condoms to prevent Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs).And if you’re too shy, or you’re not able to talk about these things with your partner – then you probably shouldn’t be having sex! (Just try to relax using one of the sex toys to find out more on how you will be reacting when you are going to have the real sexual intercourse)

When are you ready for sex?

There is no absolute right age to start having sex. What matters is whether it is the right time for you. It also depends on what you mean by ‘having sex’. There are many ways in which you can give and receive sexual pleasure without having sexual intercourse.

Giving each other massages, kissing and hugging can be very passionate(or using devices do that for them such as massagers or dildos) . It’s a way of sharing and showing love. For some people these activities can be more fulfilling than sexual intercourse.

Sexual intercourse between a boy and a girl starts with both of them getting sexually excited as a result of kissing, stroking, caressing rubbing and touching each other. This sexual excitement will result in certain physical signs of sexual excitement. For the girl, the vagina, the sexual opening between the legs, begins to moisten. The boy will get an erection, which means his penis will get bigger and harden. It is important that this stimulation goes on for long enough, because if the girl is not sexually excited enough, then her vagina will not be lubricated and moist enough, and it will be difficult for the boy’s penis to enter the girl’s vagina.

Tips for the first timers:

First of all, you must feel it is the correct thing to do. You must NOT be pressured into it, or the experience will fail to bring you the pleasure and good memories you expect and deserve. You are in charge of your life and body. You must really feel ready for it.

If you have been masturbating (or have been using masturbating toys) you probably had clitoral orgasm, so you know what is possible in terms of feelings. You must also, know your own anatomy.

In the second consideration, do not have sex if you have over-drunk alcohol. You can become drunk and lose a great deal of your judgment after even one drink.

The third consideration is INSISTING on the use of a condom with your partner. The reasons for this are well known, and certainly there is no excuse for not using it. You must be protected. This is a health concern, a very good way to prevent conception, and generally a good idea as it will help to slow down your partner by desensitizing him a bit.

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